In a rapidly changing world, where parenting seems subject to fads and changing styles, according to many, parenting has become quite easily the most confusing and potentially the most stressful affair that we can go through in our lives.
As parents we dream of having our children grow up into successful, happy and responsible people, and although we only wish the best for our children, ineffective parenting can at times get in the way of achieving this.
Ineffective parenting negatively impacts the lives of our children, therefore it is important for each and every parent to evaluate his or her parenting skills and be fully aware of the effects of such parenting on children.
Although there is no such thing as an all round perfect parent, it is never wrong to try and be the best that we can be.
It is our job as parents to guide our children, mould them into the people they will ultimately become and act as role models for them – we need to be aware of ineffective parenting and the impact it has on the future of our youth.
Our children are the most precious part of our lives, and hence, worthy of the best preparations in making us adept at providing effective parenting.
There are many differences in attitudes and practices when it comes to parenting, many cultural differences and ways, but there are basic realities that apply to us all.
As parents we feel the need to protect, safeguard and guide our children, but as children we begin to feel the need to pull away from our parents, so that we can experiment and find our own way. This can magnify the emotional ‘push and pull’ of teen years for both parents and teens. The years becoming difficult and the path full of potholes…
Therefore, it is equally essential parents and teenagers feel cared for, supported and respected. With this in mind, caring, supportive and respectful communication skills can effectively help us both as parents and teeagers in navigating through this turbulent and sometimes frustrating journey of growth and separation.
We at ‘Conquering Life’ have devised a specific programme for parents designed to make parenting easier and the path more fruitful and pleasurable.
Our Parents Programme is designed as a six week workshop, held at weekly intervals and each session lasting around 60 minutes.
All relevant literature and a working manual will be provided, and at the end of the course you will be provided with a well-earned certificate of completion in ‘psychological awareness, emotional resilience and effective parenting’.
Our Parents Programme will first begin by teaching you all about self-esteem and confidence – what they mean, where they come from, why we need to have high levels of them and what happens when we don’t.
Next, we will introduce you to the concept of ‘locus of control’ – our sense of power and capability, and give you a deeper understanding of what it means and the role it plays within our lives.
We are also going to work on developing tools that will help you not only find more awareness, but cultivate a more internal locus of control, higher sense of personal power and raise your self esteem.
Once we have learned all of the above, we will learn and master the ‘Windows of Perception Processing Technique’ – an effective technique formulated to effect change in a positive way that ensures the individual is able to filter any negative belief they hold and question its substance, ascertaining whether real or imagined.
This technique is also designed to help individuals process any and all incoming information in an internal and positive way, by interpreting events and experiences as such and in a focused and deliberate way, and this process strengthens connections and creates new neural pathways, as defined by the latest neuroplasticity research and findings.
The ‘Windows of Perception Processing Technique’ makes this achievable by meeting the ten core principles demanded by our brain to rewire our neural pathways and create a shift in any and every negative thought, emotion, perspective, belief and behaviour.
Repetition of this exercise over time will aid the individual in rewiring any established unhelpful neural pathways, creating new ones and more benevolent automatic response modes.
After that, we begin to delve into effective communication skills that will help you and your children come together as one. The importance of our ability to effectively communicate with our children as parents cannot be overstressed!